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Mar 30, 2020 at 22:00.

Host a Virtual Lunch for Your Kids and Their Friends

Host a Virtual Lunch for Your Kids and Their Friends

If you ask a kid, any kid, what their favorite part of the school day is, you’re likely to get one of two answers: Recess or lunch. Which means, while many kids probably aren’t pining for a good old fashioned math or social studies lesson right now, they do miss running around together outside and chatting in the lunchroom.

There’s not a whole lot we can do about the recess part of that...

Mar 06, 2020. 1 comments

Create Your Own 'Parenting Posse'

Create Your Own 'Parenting Posse'

We like to say that it takes a village to raise a child, but sometimes that village looks pretty sparsely populated. We often don’t live in our hometowns, surrounded by extended family members and friends we’ve had since elementary school. Our attached garages allow for extra privacy from—and less interaction with—our neighbors. We rely, mostly, on ourselves.

What we all need, writes Alison...

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Feb 15, 2020. 5 comments

What to Do When Your Kid Has Trouble Making Friends

What to Do When Your Kid Has Trouble Making Friends
Loner WeekLoner WeekCalling all loners! Dining alone, gaming alone, traveling the world alone... there's a lot to be said for enjoying the finer things in life solo. It's Loner Week at Lifehacker, and we've got hacks for every possible way to make the most of the world as a party of one.

Making friends doesn’t come naturally to all of us—or to our kids. Or sometimes, the making part isn’t as...

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Feb 11, 2020. 8 comments

To Make Friends as an Adult, Find a Shared Goal

To Make Friends as an Adult, Find a Shared Goal
Loner WeekLoner WeekCalling all loners! Dining alone, gaming alone, traveling the world alone... there's a lot to be said for enjoying the finer things in life solo. It's Loner Week at Lifehacker, and we've got hacks for every possible way to make the most of the world as a party of one.

A little over a year ago, I joined an 80-person choir. One of the reasons I auditioned was because I had...

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Jan 28, 2020. 7 comments

How to Keep Yourself Off Your Friend's Social Media Feeds

How to Keep Yourself Off Your Friend's Social Media Feeds

What do you do if you’re at a party and one of your friends starts taking pictures? Do you accept that anything you do at the event might end up on Facebook or Instagram? Do you reluctantly squeeze into the back of the group selfie?

Or do you ask your friend if they could maybe not include you—your face, your kids’ faces, the joke you made that they are itching to tweet—in whatever social...

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Jan 22, 2020. 3 comments

Send Venmo Requests Within 24 Hours

Send Venmo Requests Within 24 Hours
Tech EtiquetteTech EtiquetteWe're all monsters.

The next time you end a group dinner or outing with “I’ll Venmo you,” make sure you follow up promptly.

Why? Because if you take more than a day or two to get that Venmo request sent, the person who owes you money might assume their debt is forgiven (or at least forgotten). Take even longer, and you run the risk of putting your friend in a...

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Dec 03, 2019. 2 comments

How to End a Friendship (and How to Start One), With Dr. Miriam Kirmayer

How to End a Friendship (and How to Start One), With Dr. Miriam Kirmayer

We’re tackling tough friendship scenarios this week on The Upgrade with psychologist Miriam Kirmayer, who explains why it’s so hard to navigate the norms of friendship and how to peacefully end those connections that are no longer working. Beyond researching the science of friendship for almost a decade, Dr. Kirmayer also writes a column for Psychology Today called “Casual to Close,” and is...

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Nov 20, 2019. 17 comments

Tell Us About Your Friendship Dilemmas

Tell Us About Your Friendship Dilemmas

Have a tricky friendship situation? Wondering if you’ve outgrown a friendship and it’s time to say goodbye? Is your best friend ghosting you? Are you ghosting someone else?

We’re talking with a therapist and actual friendship expert for an upcoming episode of The Upgrade, and we want to hear from you! This is your chance to get advice from friendship expert Miriam Kirmayer, who has been...

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David Murphy David Murphy Oct 30, 2019. 17 comments

All the Different Ways You Can Silence Stupid People on Facebook

All the Different Ways You Can Silence Stupid People on Facebook
Evil WeekEvil WeekWelcome to Evil Week, our annual chance to delve into all the slightly sketchy hacks we'd usually refrain from recommending. Want to weasel your way into free drinks, play elaborate mind games, or, er, launder some money? We've got all the info you need to successfully be unsavory.

When someone pisses you off on Facebook, the logical, natural response is to lob over the...

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Meghan Moravcik Walbert Meghan Moravcik Walbert Oct 24, 2019. 10 comments

Find Local Mom Friends With the Peanut App

Find Local Mom Friends With the Peanut App

Users sarcastically refer to it as “Tinder for moms,” but it really kind of is. The Peanut app, which launched in 2017, is making it easier for moms to make friends and plan meet-ups in their area.

Why do grown women need help making friends? Because even if you have plenty of friends, if most of them don’t have kids (or live near you), new parenthood can be isolating. Your friends care, but...

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Nicole Dieker Nicole Dieker Oct 09, 2019. 4 comments

Spend More Time With Friends by Doing Errands Together

Spend More Time With Friends by Doing Errands Together

If you’re of a certain age, you probably remember how much fun it was to wander the mall with your friends. Today, your shopping trips may be more about groceries and home fixtures and sale-rack winter coats—but that doesn’t mean you can’t invite your friends along.

There are a couple of reasons why combining an errand run and a friend date works so well. First of all, it gives you the chance...

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Nick Douglas Nick Douglas Oct 08, 2019. 19 comments

Be Less Polite

Be Less Polite

The nicest thing you can say to your friend is “Fuck you!” Not when you’re actually mad, but when you’re goofing around and they just got you good, and you’re acknowledging that yeah, you’re owned. That “fuck you” says “We are in a circle of trust and intimacy, and because of this we do not need to be polite.”

“Polite” is good, it’s how strangers and acquaintances and fellow professionals keep...

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Nicole Dieker Nicole Dieker Oct 05, 2019. 6 comments

How to Use Social Engineering—But Not in an Evil Way

How to Use Social Engineering—But Not in an Evil Way

If you want to win friends and influence people, well, there’s a whole book on how to do that. But how do you do social engineering the right way—to make life better for everyone, not just to manipulate people into doing what you want?

Social engineering has developed a bad reputation thanks to pickup artists, pushy salespeople, and online scammers, but there’s an under-appreciated technique...

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Nicole Dieker Nicole Dieker Jul 24, 2019. 5 comments

Use a Shared Google Calendar to Plan Time With Friends

Use a Shared Google Calendar to Plan Time With Friends

A lot of us would love to spend more time with our friends—but it often takes several rounds of back-and-forth before landing on an evening or weekend when everyone is free.

A shared Google Calendar can solve some of the scheduling issues. Not the part where you have a hard time finding a day when everyone can get together, necessarily, but the part where you have to wait around for everyone...

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Meghan Moravcik Walbert Meghan Moravcik Walbert Jul 24, 2019. 2 comments

How to Keep Your Parent Friends When the Kids Grow Apart

How to Keep Your Parent Friends When the Kids Grow Apart

Your kid makes a friend. You meet the friend’s parent. You like that parent, a lot. You start scheduling playdates, mostly for the kids but also for you. Then your partners meet and they like each other, which means now you can all spend your weekends together at backyard barbecues and campsites and waterparks, and life has never been more freaking perfect.

But then the kids get older and they...

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Anna Lee Beyer Anna Lee Beyer Jul 12, 2019. 5 comments

The Six Types of Friends Parents Need

The Six Types of Friends Parents Need

My daughter is going to a new school this fall, with a brand new set of classmates and parents. I’m approaching the experience with an eye open for which kids she hits it off with and which parents I might connect with.

It is notoriously hard to make new friends as an adult, and even harder once parenting squeezes all the social energy and free time out of your schedule. But it is totally...

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Nick Douglas Nick Douglas Jul 02, 2019. 9 comments

Take 'Meeting Notes' When You Talk With Friends

Take 'Meeting Notes' When You Talk With Friends

Productivity writer Rachel Miller takes notes when she’s with friends—“even during a coffee date,” she says. Mainly she takes notes on recommendations—good TV shows or recipes or in one case, pullover socks. It’s such a habit that her friends have emailed each other asking for Rachel’s “meeting notes.” Here’s how to start your own meeting notes, without feeling like a total dorkus.

Keep it...

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Meghan Moravcik Walbert Meghan Moravcik Walbert Jun 20, 2019. 23 comments

How to Tell If You're Boring

How to Tell If You're Boring

Boring people are everywhere—at work, at your kid’s school, maybe even at home. But perhaps the only thing worse than be trapped in a dull conversation with Mr. Monotonous is discovering that, actually, the boring one is you.

Don’t panic. You might be boring now, but that doesn’t mean you have to be boring forever. You just need to be aware of the warning signs and make a commitment to...

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Meghan Moravcik Walbert Meghan Moravcik Walbert Jun 11, 2019. 6 comments

Be a Better Conversationalist by 'Supporting' Instead of 'Shifting'

Be a Better Conversationalist by 'Supporting' Instead of 'Shifting'

The last time a friend told you how busy they’ve been, did you respond with “Omg, SAME”? If you did, you might be what one sociologist calls a “conversational narcissist ,” and it could be damaging your relationships.

Human often sympathize with others by drawing on their own experiences. Got stuck in a traffic jam this morning? Let me tell you about the EPIC traffic jam I experience a couple...

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Josh Ocampo Josh Ocampo Jun 08, 2019. 8 comments

How to Be a Better Friend

How to Be a Better Friend

We all have the habit of falling into the cycle of work and sleep and forgetting to respond to a friend’s text or missing an important date in their lives. But it’s important to maintain the friendships we have; after all, there’s no shortage of studies that suggest that friendship is good for our well-being and might even extend our life expectancy. Given just how hard it is to make new...

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